HHHMMM: A Poem of Grief Addressing the Ailing World.

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The world has issues. A lot of issues. Indeed, our generation is becoming or has become anticlockwise.

For we tend to encourage bad acts and discourage goodness.

Out of this, a poem of grief craftically presented; addresses some of these issues.

Enjoy the poem below:

 

 

 

Hmmm!
I may not be a saint

But that shouldn’t make me admire the ugly paint
I may not be a teacher
But that shouldn’t make me compromise false preachers
I may not be a healer
But that shouldn’t make me inflict on others pain

Hmmmm!
I woke up with grief not for the loss of life or wealth
I woke up with heartaches not from a broken heart but the pain of a distorted future
I woke up with tears not from the beatings of enemies but that of hailing the villain and chastising our heroes

Hmmmm!
I feel hungry not from an empty stomach
But at the starvation the needy goes through while money are wasted on streets
I feel cold not because I have no clothes
But at the sight of sisters sleeping outside on the streets
I feel fear not because am at the mercy of an enemy
But at how we hail monstrosity and applaud barbarism
I feel pain not because I have been victimized
But at the disregard for justice because we aren’t the victim

Hmmmm!
I am dumb not because I don’t know how to read
But because it’s precious to waste money on the street than send me to school
I am a villain not because I was born so
But the structures meant to guide me have become dormant

I am celebrated not because I alleviate pain
But because I live a flashy life regardless of what or who it may cause

Hmmmm!
I live in shame not because I walk naked
But because hard work is no longer celebrated
I live with scars not that of war
But that of mockery because I choose to be decent
I live stranded not because am on a weary desert
But because of hazy dark atmosphere that makes it hard for me to find my way
I live with all these but I still carry hope
For beneath the mud is where we find precious diamonds.

Poem by Hamza Hajj Ayyub. Please don’t forget to comment your opinion.

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TOXIC FRIENDS: People You Must Cut to Progress

Life is an unending challenge that comes with a lot of stress we press to have our rest in our daily lives. Our load of stress comes mostly from our daily activities which include; work, family, school, individual ambition, etc.

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All these are a load of burden on us to accomplish to be able to have the sound mind which will enhance our happiness.

In life, there is a general group of people mixed in our circle of friends who happen to be a retrogress to our progress for many reasons. These are people we can refer to as ‘toxic’ friends.
Friends are those we choose to associate with. Those we believe we can spend time, share ideas and align our visions to reach greatness with. Everyone cannot become our friend. Yes, friendship is a selective process; we need people around us who would be a source of reducing our stress and not increase it.

To do that; there’s the need to recognize certain characteristics of toxic people.
Toxic friends always have holes on their roof yet want to create loopholes on others’ roof. AJ Harbinger commented that “Strange as it might sound, people who aren’t in control of their own lives tend to want to control yours.” and I agree with him. Toxic friends will force you to dance to their dirty tunes. There’s a saying that “mystery loves company”; therefore, don’t be surprised that those who are miserable will create an avenue of unhappiness for others – just to be at par.

Toxic people get close to kill your spirits with their words, which might turn your right thinking to negativity. Everyone is created with a tongue. The tongue is a sharp tool that can be used negatively to ruin the spirit of others or can be used positively to impart goodness into the lives of others. When you encounter those with negative tongues, make it a point to maintain your distance; create a barrier if possible. Regardless of what, don’t be tempted to use your tongue unwisely.

Too, one characteristic of toxic people is that; they keep doing things intentionally to upset you even though it’s obvious they are in the wrong. They cloak those unsavory actions in the name of jokes to insult or go beyond boundaries. They have total disregard for others’ boundaries.

Few days ago, I had an encounter with a friend who wanted to use jokes to mock my private life (for the second time). I made it known to him that what he had done was a deliberate attempt to insult not only me but my family. The decision I made was to cut ties with him. This is not lack of tolerance but actually getting rid of toxicity which could affect my life.

Harbinger advised that “if you’re always telling someone to stop behaving a certain way and they only continue, that person is probably toxic. Respecting the boundaries of others comes naturally to well-adjusted adults. The toxic person thrives on violating them.” Also, most of their conversations are not about sharing ideas for self-improvement but creating stories to mock others as a source of fun.

Furthermore, negative friends think they are always right and infallible. They find ways to be right even when they’re not. They rarely admit or apologize for mistakes. Annoyingly, they end up playing victim.

We will attain massive improvement in our lives if we remove friends with the above characteristics from our circle.

To do that, we need to consider doing the following: Don’t argue with friends who wrong you and do not want to accept their faults;

Let go of their wrongs, else it might take control of your mind and in turn affect the quality of your life; Avoid negative friends totally – cut ties with them and shy from sitting in their midst. However, that should not prevent us from being good to them as and when necessary. That’s a sign of self-respect and positivity and self-respect.

Life is a long, bumpy ride, and so we should be sure to not further complicate our struggles by bringing people’s loads on board. Be humble, be kind, be loving, just be an extrovert, but never allow yourself to be taken for granted. You come first irrespective of what. Remember that!

Have you had an experience with a  toxic friend? How have you managed to deal with him/her? Kindly comment below.

Expect More From Yourself And Less From Others

The human nature is an amazing one and a school in its entirety; if only we pay close attention to. Whatever man needs to develop and be a master of, has been embedded in us – if only we can tap and exploit it.

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It’s however sad that the misery, downturn and bankruptcy in almost every aspect of our lives has been the misapplication of the perception of expectation. Thus, we expect people to know and do what we are supposed to do for ourselves.

We have in our DNA the expectation syndrome which ranges from the individual to the family, the society to the nation and even our nation to the world; we all expect our transformation to come from a different source and not ourselves.

Our social life has become a moral mockery; for the individual expects change to embrace him like evolution without initiating the cause. The illiterate and the educated both waiting for manna from heaven.

For instance, the number of unemployed graduates is sky rocketing because we have been made to expect jobs (from especially government) after graduating. In believing so, we sit, hoping and praying but it never happen. Similarly, we litter our compounds and environs and expect others (especially government) to clean it up.

Another example is that of developing nations. They expect grants and loans from developed nations in order to transform their nations. And so rare does these grants and loans come on a condition that favors these countries but rather keep sinking their economies into the pool of dependency.

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Some of our expectations are valid on the individual level – because in life we can’t really do it all. But we need to be wary of how this can lock us up in a cage of dependency. We need to start expecting more from ourselves first before we expect from others. At the end of the day, everyone is really just looking out for themselves so chances are, our expectations would not be met.

In conclusion, expectation is a great tool only when applied to your own person by tasking yourself to do that which you have set for yourself to do but not that which you expect from another person, the family or the society.

Have you been expecting from others? Are you able to meet your goals by expecting from others? Please comment below.

Writing credit: Hamza Hajj Ayub, Shafic Osman & Lukumanu Iddrisu

 

 

 

10 Things Successful People Do

Most people these days are brought up on the belief that succeeding in life is about working hard and nothing else. They’re told that they can be absolutely anything they want and that all it takes to achieve even the highest goals is enough determination.

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However while hard work is certainly an important part of the equation, it’s important to realize that the big picture is actually about a lot more.

As a writer obsessed with productivity and someone that have the privilege to move with successful people, I’ve scoured the lives of successful people to discover what they do differently from the rest of us.

Let’s see these top 10 things successful people now do.

 

  1. They network

Networking is a new major part of business strategy. Successful people are good with people, and being a true people person is about a lot more than just knowing how to network. No matter what business you’re in, you need to know how to really make the most of opportunities to connect with others on a profound level.

Successful people never miss a chance to meet important individuals who could help them reach their goals and they make it a point to build strong, mutually beneficial bonds with clients and customers.

 

  1. They stay healthy

Nowadays many successful people recognize the importance of keeping fit and staying healthy. I don’t think it’s possible to be productive if you’re sick, tired or generally in poor shape.

So staying healthy and keeping fit is what most successful people now do.

 

  1. They start new projects

Most successful people who are talented, smart, or good at coming up with ideas are a dime a dozen.  Interesting to note there are many good ideas and only a few materialize to actual projects.

They enjoy being instrumental in new projects and like the sense of accomplishments when successfully complete a project.

 

  1. Commitment

People who are committed to achieving their goals no matter what that ultimately wins the race. Every endeavor will run into setbacks and seemingly insurmountable obstacles at some point.

Successful people never, ever lose steam when this happens. They come up with quick and fast solution

 

  1. They face challenges

They face a lot of challenges that they won’t even discuss with their family members not to talk of the public, because giving out too much information’s about their challenges might give competitors an extra edge.

 

  1. Incubate Ideas

Successful people are good in thinking about great ideas and put them into action, there are abundant ideas out there. Even if the idea they have leads to a successful project or venture, it usually takes time to refine a concept before it makes any sense.

 

  1. Positive thinking

Successful individuals realize that their mindset can impact all factors of their life, such as success.

Studies have found that positive thinking reveals individuals up to creating new skills, which can have an adding effect among happy people who repeat this process.

 

  1. They take calculated risk

Successful people like Mack Zuckerberg and Bill Gates didn’t become wildly successful by playing it safe.

Successful people know that taking risks within certain boundaries is absolutely necessary. They know failure is a viable option, and that they can learn and grow from their mistakes.

 

  1. Managing time efficiency

Everyone knows the saying “time is money”. Successful people know that no matter what they do, they can never going to change the fact that they only have 24 hours in one day. It’s your responsibility to make sure that those 24 hours are used effectively and wisely.

 

  1. They never stop learning

You’ll realize that successful people like to read, and desire learning more. They are always take in more information they can apply to their lifestyles and professions. This information helps them regularly change and develop.

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