Expect More From Yourself And Less From Others

The human nature is an amazing one and a school in its entirety; if only we pay close attention to. Whatever man needs to develop and be a master of, has been embedded in us – if only we can tap and exploit it.

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It’s however sad that the misery, downturn and bankruptcy in almost every aspect of our lives has been the misapplication of the perception of expectation. Thus, we expect people to know and do what we are supposed to do for ourselves.

We have in our DNA the expectation syndrome which ranges from the individual to the family, the society to the nation and even our nation to the world; we all expect our transformation to come from a different source and not ourselves.

Our social life has become a moral mockery; for the individual expects change to embrace him like evolution without initiating the cause. The illiterate and the educated both waiting for manna from heaven.

For instance, the number of unemployed graduates is sky rocketing because we have been made to expect jobs (from especially government) after graduating. In believing so, we sit, hoping and praying but it never happen. Similarly, we litter our compounds and environs and expect others (especially government) to clean it up.

Another example is that of developing nations. They expect grants and loans from developed nations in order to transform their nations. And so rare does these grants and loans come on a condition that favors these countries but rather keep sinking their economies into the pool of dependency.

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Some of our expectations are valid on the individual level – because in life we can’t really do it all. But we need to be wary of how this can lock us up in a cage of dependency. We need to start expecting more from ourselves first before we expect from others. At the end of the day, everyone is really just looking out for themselves so chances are, our expectations would not be met.

In conclusion, expectation is a great tool only when applied to your own person by tasking yourself to do that which you have set for yourself to do but not that which you expect from another person, the family or the society.

Have you been expecting from others? Are you able to meet your goals by expecting from others? Please comment below.

Writing credit: Hamza Hajj Ayub, Shafic Osman & Lukumanu Iddrisu





Dear young guys and ladies,

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Marry now with the little you have. Don’t wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so they grow along with you. Grow with your spouse and kids and succeed with them. Start your life now as you might still not succeed at your target age.

Many people have waited to make so much money before they get married, years later money has refused to come, still no wife, no kids.

When you’ve found true love don’t hesitate waiting for money, it may mean waiting till eternity.

So many young guys are pretending not to be financially buoyant enough to marry but are already living couples life, so many girls are even wasting away on our streets as sex toys for men old enough to be their grandfather still they tell you they are not matured enough for marriage.

When you marry early, you get preoccupied with your spouse and not end up as “pubic utility ” for all and sundry, good enough your kids grow along with you. Stop looking for a “ready made” spouse, work your spouse’s success with him/her grow your wealth together – it gives you a sense of belonging and you’ll have a say.

If you have means, please marry early, don’t wait till you see your friends’ kids graduating while you still have yours in kindergarten classes, don’t wait to be 60 years and you still have kids in elementary school, don’t have kids young enough to be your grandchildren.

Contentment comes not from much wealth but fewer wants, don’t wait to buy Range Sport or build Mansions before you start you matrimony, ask your parents where and how they started, you’ll see that you’re even better off.

Trust me, it isn’t money that brings happiness but contentment, be happy with the little you’ve got, grow with your spouse and pray for more.

For the ladies, why wait?, when it’s even detrimental to your health to bear children late, why not do the needful while still at your prime?, very many who are waiting for “Mr Rich”
ended up as second wife, single parent, baby-Mama, very many never even married.

Don’t be deceived waiting for that man who can afford Peruvian wig, designer bags and cutest of wears, those guys are non existent else you’ll end up as money ritual material.

Please young guys, take my advice seriously, settle down early, don’t delay yourself

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waiting for a big society wedding, the ceremony is just few hours while marriage is lifetime, no matter how much you spend on wedding ceremony, yours won’t be the best and no matter how little you can afford, yours won’t be the worst, you’ll always be somewhere in-between, so why worry yourself?.

Take this as a sincere advise from me.

This is article is written by PROFESSOR HASSAN ABUBAKAR. It is featured on this blog because it’s a content worth sharing to alert our youth. All comments and opinions shall be directed to him.